As soon as it started, I loved it. The sister was in her element, and she was winning. I’ve never worked in fashion, but I can only imagine that it’s like that. You know how Mavis was solving problems, putting out fires, and just being amazing as she’s surrounded by beautiful people. And then. I didn’t see the trailer, so I didn’t know what to expect. I definitely didn’t expect to see her perfect boyfriend, in their perfect apartment with another woman! So this is survival?
Yeah that part. I was already hooked, but I needed to know what she was going to do. How do you re-build your life when it seemingly falls apart. I was asking a question that I sadly had the answer to already. We all have our story, so what did survival look like for Mavis?
Life Coach Connie Clay said we can come back from anything. Here are her tips:
- First she said you need to gather your resources. This is survival remember?
“What will you need to be successful. Do you need to do research? Do you need a coach or a mentor?
For Mavis that meant packing her bags and finding a place to stay. That was number one.
Clay also said you need to be aware of the low hanging fruit. Mavis reached out to her circle and the drag queens put her in touch with a diva who needed a stylist. It was life changing. She could have stayed in her room with cocaine(her roommate’s cat remember) but she didn’t. If we don’t have any friends in drag to lean on don’t worry, “Whatever your goal is take a few minutes a day and create success in your mind,” said Clay. She recommends trying affirmations.
Here’s one:
I’m amazing.
And you are. Say it. It feels good.
My life fell apart a few years ago. I didn’t catch my husband with another woman, but he did surprise me by telling me he wanted out. He didn’t believe I was shocked. I was. I was happy. And like Mavis I had to pick myself up and figure out what was next. Unlike Mavis, I had a young child and no cocaine (the cat remember) to lean on. I did have a supportive circle and a rental property that was unoccupied. And like Mavis I was a bit on the thick side…though I haven’t gotten any complaints. At first it was treading water. I was ok. But I had to be. I never thought I’d be 40 and dumped. Let me try that again 40 and dumped and a single mother. I think that’s why I love the show so much. Mavis is doing more than surviving. She’s living her life. There was a pause. She had to regroup, but that was it. She caught her breath and kept going. Life knocked her off balance but she was still standing.
I’d like to think my life is like that. I left a home that I loved along with a man I adoringly called an adonis. Like Clay said I’m ready to define my next season. For me that will mean a bigger house, better shoes, and who knows maybe another love…but until then I have my remote and a glass wine. Here’s to you Mavis. You aren’t or shall I say we aren’t just surviving with our big boobs and extra curves this is what I call living. And we’re doing it on our terms.